Some people like to ask questions like "Why am I so unlucky?", "What if Ihad done this earlier?" and "Why am I always in such a situation?". Becausethese questions are backward looking, the answers you get with them arenaturally disempowering. On the other hand, questions like "What can I learnfrom this experience?", "What can I do differently move forward?" and "What amI grateful for?" are empowering. They provoke you and get you thinking, puttingyou on the path to a better life.
If you're someone who normally doesn't self-reflect, you might be stumpedby questions. However, this is perfectly normal. I remember when I was a smallprimary school student, the teacher asked us how we would describe ourselves.The question got me stumped, because I had never thought much about it. It tookme some time to find some meaningful adjectives to describe myself, but eventhen they didn't seem right. That was one of the starting points of myself-exploration journey. Somewhere along the way, I became a big fan ofintrospection, enjoying the process of self-reflecting and thinking overquestions.
Today, I believe questions are a key to self-awareness and personalgrowth. In my 1-1 coaching sessions, I enable my clients to discover theanswers to their goals/questions by asking them the right questions. It'd beeasy if I just tell my coachees what they "should" do and what they "shouldnot" do. But that's not the point. It's about empowering my clients to discoverthemselves through asking the right guiding questions, catered to theirsituation and their profiles. The right questions will help them untangle theblockages in them and connect with their inner self.
It doesn't matter if you get stumped in the beginning, or if you don'tknow the answers to the questions at first. Our minds are boundless. Justbecause you don't get an answer immediately, it doesn't mean there are noanswers. The answers are there - it's just that your mind is too foggy sinceyou've not consulted it before. The more you ask, the clearer your mind willbe, and the more ready you'll be to receive the answers.
Below is a full set of self-reflection questions I've come up to help youlive your best life. While the article says 101 questions, there are more thanthat, and I'll continue to add on over time as I come across new ones. Some ofthese questions are questions which I ask my 1-1 clients, to uncover the realthem. The questions will help you focus on what's important to you, and whatyou want. They are not meant to be answered all at one shot - they are to bethought over again and again, as part of your growth journey. Pick out a fewquestions to reflect on today, then bookmark and check back a week later tothink over the others. Check back regularly to reflect on the questions.
Remember, there is no 1 final answer. It's a continuous discovery process.Your answers to the questions today will be different from your questions nextmonth, 3 months, 1 year, 3 years down the road. Add it to your weekly review sessions. This is an important article for your growth journey.
记住,没有最终答案。这是一个不断发现的过程。你现在的回答会和下个月、三个月后、一年后、三年后的答案截然不同。把它加到你周回顾的清单上。这篇文章对你的成长旅程非常重要。 作者: 丫丫 时间: 2011-12-24 14:53
Here they are:
这些问题是:
1.Who are you?
1.你是谁?
2.What are youpassionate about?
2.你对什么充满激情?
3.What are theachievements you are most proud of?
3.你最自豪的成就是什么?
4.What are you most grateful for in life?
4.生活中最值得感恩的事情是什么?
5.What are the mostimportant things to you in life?
5.对你来说生活中最重要的事情是什么?
6.How would youdescribe yourself?
6.你会如何描述自我?
7.What are yourvalues? What do you represent? What do you want to embody? (On Day 9 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days, we work together to discover your values.)
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11.What is your idealself? What does it mean to be your highest self?
11.你理想中的自我是什么样子?你最高的自我是什么样子?
Look at your lifenow. Are you living the life of your dreams?
12.现在审查一下你的生活。你是活在你梦想的生活中吗?
13.If you have oneyear left to live,what would you do?
13.如果你还剩下一年的时光,你会做什么?
14.If you have onemonth left to live, what would you do?
14. 如果你还剩下一个月的时光,你会做什么?
15.If you have oneweek left to live, what would you do?
15. 如果你还剩下一周的时光,你会做什么?
16.If you have oneday left to live, what would you do?
16. 如果你还剩下一天的时光,你会做什么?
17.If you have anhour left to live, what would you do?
17.如果你还能活一小时,你会做什么?
18.If you have oneminute left to live, what would you do?
18.如果你还只能活一分钟,你会做什么?
19.What would you dotoday if there is no more tomorrow?
19.如果没有明天,你会做什么?
20.What are thebiggest things you've learned in life to date?
20.到现在为止你从生活中学到的最重要的事情是什么? 作者: 丫丫 时间: 2011-12-24 14:54
21.What advice wouldyou give to yourself 3 years ago?
21.你会给3年前的自己提出什么建议?
22.If you areyourself 1 year from the future, how would you advise the you now? (On Day 22of 30DLBL, we travel to the future to give advice to the us today.)
23.Is there somethingyou're still holding on to? Is it time to let it go?
23.还有放不开手的事情吗?是不是该放手了?
24.What are you busywith today? Will this matter 1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years?
24.你今天忙些什么?一年后这件事还重要吗?3年后呢?5年后呢?
25.What are your Quadrant 2 tasks?
25.你的第二象限的任务是什么?(即重要的但不紧急的任务)
26.What opportunitiesare you looking for?
26.你在寻找哪些机遇?
27.How can you createthese opportunities?
27.你会如何创造这些机遇?
28. What are your biggest goals and dreams?
28.你最重要的目标和梦想是什么?
29. What's stoppingyou from pursuing them? …Why? How can you overcome them?
29.是什么阻止了你对它们的追求?为什么?你该如何克服它们?
30.If you are to dosomething for free for the rest of your life, what would you want to do?
30.如果你想为你的余生无偿的做些事情,你会做什么? 作者: 丫丫 时间: 2011-12-24 14:54
31.What would you doif you cannot fail; if there are no limitations in money, resources, time ornetworks?
31.如果你不能放弃,并且没有金钱、资源、时间、网络的限制,你会做什么?
32.What do you wantto achieve 1 year from now?
32.一年后你想达到什么目标?
33.… 3 years?
33.三年后你想达到什么目标?
34.… 5 years?
34.五年后你想达到什么目标?
35.… 10 years?
35.十年后你想达到什么目标?
36.How important arethese goals to you?
36.这些目标对你有多么重要?
37.What if thesegoals are doubled? Tripled? Magnified by 10? How would you feel? Would youprefer to achieve these or your previous goals?
38.Who are the peoplewho have achieved similar goals? … What can you learn from them?
38.谁实现了和你相似的目标?…你可以从他们学到什么?
39.Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? … Why?
39.你抓住了生活中的某些部分了吗?……为什么?
40.What's the top priority in your life right now?
40.现在你生活中最重要的事情是什么? 作者: 丫丫 时间: 2011-12-24 14:54
41.What are you doingabout it?
41.你为这件事做了些什么?
42.If you were to dietomorrow, what would be your biggest regret? What can you do now to make surethat doesn't happen?
42.如果你明天就要离开世界,你最大的遗憾是什么?你现在怎么做才能阻止它?
43.For everyexperience you get: What are the biggest things you have learned?
43.对于每一次经历:你从中学到的最重要的事情是什么?
44.How can you dothis better the next time?
44.下次你怎么做会做得更好?
45.If you had 1million dollars, what would you do with it?
45.如果你有一百万,你会做什么?
46.Do you love yourjob?
46.你喜欢你的工作吗?
47.What is your idealcareer?
47.你理想的职业是什么?
48.How can you startcreating your ideal career starting today?
48.从今天开始,你怎么做才能开始进入你理想的职业?
49.What is your ideal diet?
49.你理想的饮食是什么?
50.What do you needto do to achieve your ideal diet?
50.要想达到理想的饮食,你需要做什么? 作者: 丫丫 时间: 2011-12-24 14:55
51.What is your idealhome like?
51.你心目中的家是什么样子?
52.What do you needto do to achieve your ideal home?
52.要实现理想家园,你需要做什么?
53.What is your ideal physical look?
53.你理想的外观是什么样子?
54.What do you needto do to achieve your ideal physical look?
54.要想达到你理想中的外观,你需要做什么?
55.What is your ideallife?
55.什么是你理想中的生活?
56.What can you do tostart living your ideal life?
56.你需要做什么才能开始过上理想中的生活?
57.What would youwant to say to yourself 1 year in the future?
57.你想对1年后的自己说些什么?
58.… 3 years?
58. 你想对3年后的自己说些什么?
59.… 5 years?
59. 你想对5年后的自己说些什么?
60.… 10 years?
60. 你想对10年后的自己说些什么? 作者: 丫丫 时间: 2011-12-24 14:55
61.What do you fear most in life?
61.你在生活中最害怕什么?
62.Is there anything you are running away from?
62.你有没有逃避一些事情?
63.Are you settlingfor less than what you are worth? … Why?
63.如果你的价值没有体现出来,你会满足吗?为什么?
64. What is your inner dialoguelike?
64.你的自我对话是什么样子?
65.What limitingbeliefs are you holding on to?
65.你所坚持的局限性的信念是什么?
66.Are they helpingyou achieve your goals?
66.这些信念在帮你实现目标吗?
67.If not, is it timeto let them go?
67.如果没有,是不是该放手了?
68.What empoweringbeliefs can you take on to help you achieve your goals?
68.什么影响性的信念能帮你实现目标?
69.What bad habits doyou want to break?
69.你想改掉哪些坏习惯?
70.What good habits do you want to cultivate?
70.你想养成哪些好习惯? 作者: 丫丫 时间: 2011-12-24 14:55
71.What are the biggestactions you can take now to create the biggest results in your life?
71.在你的生活中,要想创造最好的结果你需要采取哪些重要的行动?
72.Where are youliving right now - the past, future or present?
72.你现在活在哪里?--过去,未来,还是现在?
73.Are you livingyour life to the fullest right now?
73.你现在是全心全意生活吗?
74.What is themeaning of life?
74.生活的意义是什么?
75.What is your purpose in life? Why do you exist? What is your mission?
75.你生命中的目标是什么?你为什么而存在?你的使命是什么?
76.How can you makeyour life more meaningful, starting today?
76.从现在开始,怎么样能让你的生活更有意义?
77.What drives you?
77.什么能驱动你?
78.What are the timesyou are most inspired, most motivated, most charged up?
78.你什么时候最有灵感,最受鼓舞,最有能量?
79.What did you doduring those times? How can you do more of that starting today?
79.当你最有灵感、最受鼓舞、最有能量你做了些什么?从今天开始你怎样做才能有更多的这样的时刻?
80.How can you changesomeone's life for the better today?
80. 今天你怎么做才能让别人的生活过得更好? 作者: 丫丫 时间: 2011-12-24 14:56
81.Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with?
81.哪五个人是和你在一起时间最多的人?
82.Are these peopleenabling you or holding you back?
82.这些人帮你前进还是让你后退?
83.What qualities doyou want to embody? (Refer to Q7: Values and Q11: Ideal Self) Where can you meet people who embody these qualities?